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by Jo Ann (if u must know)...

thought i'd want to share another piece with u. Honestly, i wish i wrote it myself. Just didnt think of doing it. well..it reflects my opinions to the point. tee hee. :
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WHICH is worse? The man who publicly confesses his betrayal while professing to love his wife dearly? Or the affronted wife, who’d much rather throttle him, yet stands by her husband in his hour of need?

New York Governor Eliot Spitzer, who spoke of pursuing justice in every corner, recently admitted to using the services of high-priced prostitutes.

As the bubble of his career burst all around him, he apologised both to the public and his family. As the public clamoured for his resignation, his wife was literally at his side.

“I am disappointed that I failed to live up to the standard I set for myself,” Spitzer said. “I must now dedicate some time to regain the trust of my family.”

Then there is the gorgeous Girls Aloud singer Cheryl Cole, whose two-year marriage to footballer Ashley Cole started to wither in the wake of infidelity allegations.

Branded a love cheat by the woman involved in the suspected drunken sexual liaison, the Chelsea star lay low waiting for the scandal to blow over.

Mrs Cole, on the other hand, splurged on a Thai holiday with her female friends and lost weight without even trying. She also looked stunning as she flitted around the Hollywood social circuit.

Yet she eventually returned home to England, ostentatiously without her wedding ring, to save her marriage.

Closer to home, as soon as Datuk Seri Chua Soi Lek admitted to his lead role in a fervently distributed sex video, his wife stated that she and the family would stand by him.

Though she’s accepted his apology and regrets, it has been a trying time for them all. She said she would support him, for he has been a good husband, father and family man who had never shirked his responsibilities.

So, these men who say they love their wives – why do they do it? Put their careers, their families and their personal lives at stake, all for a romp.

A 2006 article in the Daily Telegraph suggests that, from time immemorial, brilliant men have always betrayed their wives.

The list of offenders includes Albert Einstein, John Ford Kennedy, Picasso, Bill Clinton, painter Paul Gauguin, Elvis Presley and even the old chap Charlie Chaplin.

The writer argues that the key to famous men’s behaviour lies in their desire to keep adding to their host of achievements. They really can’t be blamed, he argues, for they are overly endowed with an intense male characteristic – revelling in risk.

Men have an innate compulsion to take the highest risks, to break the mould, to push the envelope of a previous groundbreaking innovation.

You can label it an act of rebellion even, which is why – as in this instance – each novel sexual experience becomes irresistible.

A holier-than-thou man sleeping with prostitutes. A talented footballer cheats with a hairdresser who looks like the antithesis of his wife. Is that breaking the mould?

It turned out to be a very interesting article, as I read further.
Each illicit episode is a metaphor for the primeval hunt. Stealth, secrecy, tactics and strategy are part of the hunt. Most intriguing of all, so is the terrifying risk of discovery.

Furthermore, the men’s fame, wealth, status and power make them irresistible to other women in their insatiable quest for conquest.

Thus, these adventures persist ad nauseam, despite all of society’s efforts to be modern and “civilised’’. The writer concludes that it is simply a by-product of humans’ exploratory urge, embedded deep in the genes.

The above arguments and insights, however, leave the deceived wives at a distinct disadvantage.

In the face of such public betrayal and humiliation, why do the women still stick with their men?
Unless, as has been repeatedly said, you stand in their shoes you will never know the reasons for their unstinting loyalty – if you brand it as such.

Wealth, fame, power and children: in some cases the women have far more than their husbands. In fact, they could very well live without them.

Recently, a female friend told me one of her colleagues had taken extended leave of absence from work to join her boyfriend in his new posting in Bangkok.

When he had been in China previously, the young woman did not deem it necessary to accompany him, as the high-school sweethearts were both intent on pursuing their careers.
My friend commented: “You know what Bangkok is like, so we girls persuaded her to go. If she wants to marry and settle down with him, she can’t afford the risk.”

So, which is worse, do you think? The risk of love or the love of risk?
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What do u think? I think, it sorta proves that we shouldnt really go for famous people after all...since they are the ones who seem to be doing a lot of cheating. Hrmph.